Walking on tiptoes, literally!

Making assumptions has always been my thing, and my assumptions are more of educated guesses and gut instincts than just random thoughts. And they have not failed me (not much anyways).

One might argue, and "one" has -lol- that when u assume u make an ASS of urself and the person involved (u n me).. That assumptions are borderline paranoia, and can sometimes make u look like a fool.

What's ur take on assumptions peeps? Are u for or against tiptoeing around matters which matter..?

- to steady steps! xx

People are generally GOOD..

As long as u don't look close enough..

I just discovered that most (like 80%) of the people I know are GOOD, meaning they are not setting out to get anyone in any way.. And are willing to give help when asked for it.

Its just that we allow the minorities affect how we look at people en generale..

This is known as the 80-20 rule, its when the vital few affect how we treat the majority.

I say, don't give up on people, and u might be surprised with how things go!

- to networking xx
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Ventisei

So I turn 26 on the 26th..

I'm not a big fan of even numbers.. BUT.. And in the spirit of attracting all that is positive.. I'm going to squeeze my eyes shut and wish that its going to be a wonderful year.

With age, comes wisdom ;) or so they say!

In my life (so far):

I have learnt that u get to pick once, so pick wisely.

I have learnt that friends come and go, but blood is the eternal tie.

I have learnt that even blood ties can be severed if you get hurt over and over again.

I have learnt that no matter how well rounded u are, given the right amount of ongoing stress.. You can do the unthinkable.

I have learnt that in order to go on, we sometimes have to make up excuses.. For ourselves, and for those we care about.

I have learnt (the hard way) that anything and everything u did would come back to bite u in the tush, sooner or later.

I have learnt that men are much easier to live with, work with, or have a relationship with.. than women..

I have learnt that the only constant thing is change, that it will happen weather u like it or not.

I have learnt that your mom does know better, no matter how absurd it sounds at the time.

I have learnt that there is no such thing as "its not you, its me", that if ur really into a person u would get over whatever it is that's in "you".

I have learnt (have always known) that if ur happy, everyone around u will be.. Its not a secret anymore.

I have learnt that while its important to forgive, its much more important not to forget.

I have learnt that life is a gamble, and if u don't have what it takes to put urself out there, ur just a sad excuse of a human being.

I have also learnt that life is too short to go easy on the little stuff, cuz every little bit matters.

I have learnt that once u stop learning (and I did for some time) u fall into this vicious cycle of boredom and apathy.

I have learnt that no matter how bad ur day is going, a heart felt compliment or a thankful smile can turn it around in a second.

I have learnt that everything is subjective, and that there are at least two sides to every argument.

I have learnt that for u to have a clear view, u have to forget the box, and what's outside it, instead zoom out and think panoramically.

I have learnt that by expecting the unexpected u can miss the expected.

I have learnt that controlling ur impulses is the hardest thing I have to live with.

I have learnt that when two people meet, and connect.. They both carry a little bit of each other when they leave.

I have learnt that it takes 6 months to know what a person is really made off, a cut-off point that never fails.

I have learnt that in marriage, the first year is the hardest, and married life takes A LOT of effort in order to work.

I have learnt that most problems could be resolved by good, honest communication.

I have learnt that people will continue to disappoint me, its just the way life goes.

I have learnt that I still want to learn, that there is more in life out there for me to explore (and conquer? XD) and that nothing can stand in my way.

- to life long learning a la experience xx
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Fire Vs Ice

Some say the world will end in fire,
Some say in ice.
From what I've tasted of desire
I hold with those who favor fire.
But if it had to perish twice,
I think I know enough of hate
To say that for destruction ice
Is also great
And would suffice.

Robert Frost


** this poem reflects my mood today, in a way my own words would fail to explain**

Trust

"Few delights can equal the mere presence of one whom we trust utterly."

I always say that if a relationship was based on 3 pillars, trust, respect, and good communication would be those pillars.

To me, trust would make or break a relationship, cuz without trust, how can u respect that person in order to communicate with them properly. Its all interlaced, all vital for any relationship (be it friendship, love, or even at work), yet it all revolves around honesty and trustworthiness.


- to B, and more people like her xx

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W.I.I.F.M

Those of you who are in the business field, are familiar with the concept of "What's In It For Me". Its when organisations persuade employees to implement change by giving them incentive, on a personal level.. By giving them a driver they can relate to.



This concept is not specific to organisations, as we all have our own agendas when we get involved in any process, on some level. No matter how noble our acts seem, we all use WIIFM, be it for personal gratification, immediate merit or long term perceived gain..



The point is, try as we might, we are all selfish at heart, nothing we do is devoid of WIIFM.. And its not a bad thing, as long as we do not make it the solitary driving force behind our actions.. And keep the big picture in mind.



The problem arises when all we see is our reflection, when every relationship we pursue, every action we take is based on an agenda suited for our benefit, on the expense of others.



Being able to balance our "WIIFM"-es with those of others is how we can reach optimal achievement.



- to selfless acts, and synchronised goals ;) xxx



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In complete harmony

Just for the record,

I am totally, completely, utterly content with my day, like I haven't been for some time.

I slept in late, had a great wakeup call ;), spent time with the cat, did lunch, hit the gym, and am currently in the clinic. Working with my favourite doctor, since way back when, and I could not help but blog about it.

This is bliss, the comforting kind.

- to harmony xx
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Football & Me

I have always been a football fan, less so nowadays but definitely hard core back in the days when the girls would gather up and throw a pre-match party... Colour coded et al xD

Its quite interesting how we used to side up with one team, sometimes because they represent a country we love, other times because the players are pure eye candy and sometimes.. Just sometimes.. Because they played better xD

No matter how bad the teams played, we enjoyed the rush we got from routing for them, the bets we made and the after parties we had.. I met my husband after one of those bets xD yes.. Me n football go way back ..

And then I met that one person who had the exact match watching rituals, habits, and saw red, just they way I saw it.
But, for political (ehm) reasons, we are no longer in contact.

So "our" team won today. Yaiy us!

Congrats to all alahli fans xx
And for all of u gals who see no point in match-watching, ur missin out xD

- to mo, the person, not the cat! Xx

P.S. I'm sending this before the match ends, cuz I know we will win xD
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First impressions

Within the first 7 seconds of meeting someone, you make up your mind about what they are to u. If u like them or not, if u want them, or not. If the person is going to add onto ur life, or is just plain destructive.. We make the decision of keeping or leaving that person behind in our journey right from the beginning, and most of the time, your gut instinct is right. Occasionally though, we get distracted or refuse to jump into a category right from the start.. And we might tag that person along for so long and then discover that our first hunch was right to start with. Other times, we leave a person behind and after some time (years maybe), time proves us wrong.

Basically, relationships are a gamble.. And sometimes, sticking with ur gut feeling is the best option u got.

What's your take on judging a book by its cover.. Enlighten me ;)


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Blab a la Gab

Its been ages since i had one of those long laid back days, where i lie down on my uber comfy couch, log online and just browse the world wide web XD i miss all my bookmarks.. all the blogs i check up on *i do apologize* and the shopping! i do miss the online shopping too!

I blame the cat.

And the fact that i have been shopping non-stop ever since i got my grades.. oh .. i passed.. lol

I love shopping in Dubai..

Also, i've been going to the movies like they might shut down or something.. .in fact, im typing this right now with my friend just around the corner, on her way to pick me up and head to the movies.. i'm watching an ARABIC movie this time.. emmm .. i really don't know what to say.. but u gotta try it all xD

On another note, this past week was FAB.. not only was the shopping ravishingly divine, i had the best company anyone could ask for ;) we sat a lil, sipped our cosmos a lil and laughed alot.. *sigh* i do miss her.. already! Xxx

Next week i start work.. and a whole buncha pending to-do's..

So until then, i wish u all great company, laughter, and lous xx

- to high's! xx

L.O.V.E.

Love must be as much a light, as it is a flame.
-- Henry David Thoreau


How many burns does it take to make the light part seem worthless?

Just a thought.

X
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A picture's worth a thousand words!

FaFi-Fied: graffiti art goes MAC

And So: I'm Done! *for the time being*

Piloting motherhood a la kittens

I desperately need a vacation!

The so-called "amicable" breakup

There is no such thing! In a break up someone has to end up hurt, resentful or angry.. No matter how u break the news.. And how well educated, understanding, open minded the people are prior to the break up.. it all seems to fall apart when u sense it coming, rejection is probably the hardest thing to swallow.

People break up for various reasons; for other people, out of boredom, wanting different things at different times, compatibility issues.. Etc.. But it all boils down to a winner and a loser. One person walks out willing to start fresh, the other is left feeling used and definitely not "amicable".

However, and some might not agree, to limit damages (if u have the time, and -like me- have a big heart), there are ways to make a horrible situation less so.

1. Drop hints: let them sense it coming, by knowing they would then start to have a back up plan to help them get over it (subconsciously).

2. Talk: communicate, as sad or hard the truth might be, sometimes the medium is the message. Make sure ur tone is serious, mention the pros of the relationship before dissing it, and put urself in the other person's shoes.. Try to soften the blow with the right words: use "I am not getting what I need out of this" instead of " ur a retard who doesn't know what a girl wants" for example :p

3. Blame it on the situation, not the person: no matter how "bad" a person might seem to you, u need to think of him/her in context of what's going on in their lives.. Try not to throw the blame on a personality trait, cuz that would generally rev up hatred and other ugly feelings.

4. Do it over time: the break up "point" has to be set, and done once and for all, but to make it easier (on both of u) turn it into a process of slowly moving out of each others lives, and when the day comes; a major bleeder could be avoided.

5. Offer some form of contact post break-up: not phone calls, not texts.. Maybe emails.. This would make them feel better in that there is a tiny flicker of hope, which they need in order to bargain the break up with themselves, and finally accept it in due time.

- to healthy relationships xx
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Who ticks u off the most?

One of my '08 resolutions was anger management.. And since I have some time on my hand.. I started thinking of DIY ways to overcome that "urge" u get when ur faced with stupidity, irresponsibility, or hurt (Things that tick u off en generale).





I think we have different tolerance levels to every person according to 3 person-specific measures, and 3 general measures



Specific measures:

_______________





- how much u care for that person ( loved ones tend to get a few notches off the marker)

- the person's track record (have they done this before? Do they have excuses..eg. Ongoing stressors?)




- how BIG the issue is.. (I.e how bad they screwed up, and will it effect u on the long run?)





General measures:

_______________



- ur stress level (are u sleep deprived? Overworked? Sad?)





- ur caffeine, nicotine, endorfine (whatever floats ur boat; hormones and pms included) level





- ur previous experiences (with that situation or others)



And so, the next time u want to blow up in someone's face, reconsider.. Take some time to think it out.. You might change ur mind once u take all those factors into consideration!



- to serenity! xx

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I will tell the truth and nothing but..

-I did not put on 10 pounds in the last month.

-I did not smoke, like ever.

-I love kids, they are the joy of life.

-I feel great about what I did to her.

-What they say, really matters.

-Money doesn't buy happiness, nor do lous, choos, and manolos.

-If I had a chance to redo it, I would have gone elsewhere.

-My insomnia is espresso induced

-I would never go to therapy

-I believe in happily ever after.


Have a great April Fools day peeps, easy on the pranks..

-to mo, paris and him xxx
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