Saturday, June 21, 2008

Are you tactful?

They say that: "Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves."

So does this apply to everyone around u? Can you not speak your mind to even those closest to u without poking their self-confidence?

And if u do state the obvious (to u) are u being rude and inconsiderate? Or open and positively proactive?

Being tactful, in my opinion, is to be able to say anything.. No matter how harsh, but delivering it with kid gloves.. Its the art of being smooth, and avoiding ripples whilst getting a point through..

- to saying it as it is sans 7asaseya! xx

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Anonymous said...

my freinds have a habit of taking me shopping, or asking me for my opinion on things cz they know ana age6ha bl wayh o i dont suger-coat things

it can get pretty tricky, especially with people im not very close to, but its who i am, and i cant help it :)

Fastidious Babe said...

dandoon: it does get tricky! i kinda wish i bit my tongue quite a few times! although i tend not to go beyond small talk when im around strangers.. its a good thing really! x

~ Dreamzy ~ said...

my mom can SO amazingly do that

i wish i could

~ Dreamzy ~ said...

wait !

i meant it the other way round.

my mom can sugar coat stuff whatever they are and leave any conversation with the person infront of her HAPPY

without ONE white lie !

thats what i meant.

i am more of a ya BLACK / WHITE person i dont do grey

Baroque said...

i don't think thats possible..

with every word you say you risk the chance of being misunderstood or bruising someone indirectly and without really meaning it..

words like every other thing in life are subjective..


Anonymous said...

It's hard for me to say things sans 7asaseya... although I did consider myself as tactful, but it turns out I'm not according to your definition;p... I just can't say it out loud if I know its going to hurt the person to hear...or I can't get myself to say it... unless I have have have to cuz I love that person too much not to... u know what I mean?

Delicately Realistic said...

6al ib 3aini ;/

Im either quiet or just blurt things out.

Y3ni, basically....7alatni wana sakta


nyxxie said...

I guess I can be when I want to :P

Ruby Woo said...

I'm guilty of "suger-coating" certain things. I can never be that blunt. I know that I'm too nice sometimes but there are limits, I know when to speak up if it's necessary!

Fastidious Babe said...

dreamzy: lol i got it the first time round :P i guess women develop tact with time! x

baroque: thats another thing.. u might think ur tactful enough not to hurt anyones feelings but u never know how things can go.. very true x

purelyorchid: yes i know what u mean.. its like u have to tell the person cuz u love them and they need to know but on the other hand they might get offended and if u really love a person would u want to offend them? lol totally get it x

delicately realistic: lol yeah i'm starting to think i should put a sock in it more often now :P

nyxxie: its a talent only few can master :P lol x

ruby woo: ah the perfect combination! x

PinkChampagne said...

Thank you for making me think about this post deeply for the past two days.
Theres alot more to it than that and involves alot of touched a core topic that affects many people in our Eastern world.
I hope one day I can sit with you and talk about it x

Fastidious Babe said...

inshalla! this is why i blog! i like that people respond to the random thoughts and theories i make.. its nice to get all the different perspectives.. and comments like yours make me feel that the post did not go to waste.. that it provoked some kind of response and got u thinking is really rewarding! xx